(11-07-2012, 10:18 PM)Toms306 Wrote:

(11-07-2012, 09:44 PM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote: Can I ask what happened on that day?

Well, I think a lot of people here know anyway. I'll warn you its not nice though, don't read if you're eating.

Basically I drove down to chelmsford (over an hour away) to meet a lad off .net with some wheels. On the way, my guts started playing up (ibs ftl) and I got the services just in time for - there's no nice way to put this - 'mass evacuation'. Was literally just in time too, didn't even have time to lock the car or even close the door properly, 5 mins of traffic and it would've been very, very different!

Then unfortunately a similar thing happened on my way to meet a mate just a week later but I turned around and got home in.time, then again a few months later while I was at college. So I'm now scared that it could happen any time, any where and those of you that are also unlucky enough to have ibs will know there is no way to cure it, just ways to try and make it less often (like avoiding stress.....yeah right!)

So I know there's about a half hour delay from the first signs until its really bad (although not all the time, sometimes there's no warning at all)......so I can go half hour from home, you can see the sense in it now I assume. And this is also why I need a powerful reliable car.....so I can get home f*cking quick if I need to (allowing more miles for the half hour)....and reliability, well one of my worst nightmares would be stranded broken down while having another 'episode' like before. So maybe it makes a little mote sense now why I want some things?

And I also have what's known as toilet phobia.....this means I need the loo (or feel i need to, even if nothings there) when I'm not near a 'safe' toilet (have a problem with public ones, really my only safe one is at home or nans).

I've never told anyone all of that before, just small bits to a few trustworthy people......and now I've put it on a public forum, maybe I'm finally past caring about embarrassment, or maybe I just don't give a shit anymore (no pun intended).....so anyway, now you know.......and as said above, it probably makes more sense as to why I do or don't do certain things now.

(11-07-2012, 10:18 PM)Toms306 Wrote: Basically I drove down to chelmsford (over an hour away) to meet a lad off .net with some wheels. On the way, my guts started playing up (ibs ftl) and I got the services just in time for - there's no nice way to put this - 'mass evacuation'.

(11-07-2012, 11:00 PM)SRowell Wrote: so if i buy you some of these you will come to FCS next year?



and cheers for coming over today mate. Was good to see you and cheers for the help. Im pretty happy with the car atm!

(11-07-2012, 11:02 PM)InkedMuttley Wrote:

(11-07-2012, 11:00 PM)SRowell Wrote: so if i buy you some of these you will come to FCS next year?



and cheers for coming over today mate. Was good to see you and cheers for the help. Im pretty happy with the car atm!

I see a flaw in the plan...If you have a few more pounds on you than Joe Bloggs when you sit on it. Well let's just say you won't be as happy as a pig in shit!

(11-07-2012, 10:39 PM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote: I have a few comments in reply to your post but my first is that I was eating the whole time I read that post, take more than that to make me sick

My dad's mate I think has a similar problem to you, he doesn't let it bother him though, he'll pull up on the hard shoulder and shit on the embankment or in a bucket in the back of his van. Not glamorous I know but if the needs arises that's what he does.

The toilet phobia thing I personally understand. I only piss in public loos and will only drop the kids off at a toilet I'm comfortable with. However I don't let it affect me, when I was away for 12 days on my charity run earlier in the year I of course had to go at some point so I did the next best thing, bog roll on the seat. (You f*ckers can take the piss all you like, I just plain don't like sitting on a bog that strangers have been on.) Slightly off topic; If I drop food on the floor the 10 second rule comes into play but I won't do the above, strange how the mind rationalises things.

I think in relation to you saying the doctors won't/can't help, you say you've been because of peer pressure, I don't think they'd be able to help you until it's you who wants to go to them, not because we've got you to go. Once you want to go, you'll be more willing to accept the help and it might actually do that, help.

One last thing, and I'll be honest(possibly too honest or blunt but hey that's me) I thought something worse had happened. Not putting down your issue, just wasn't as major as I was expecting.

(11-07-2012, 10:44 PM)Dan! Wrote: Good on you Tom. You know I have IBS aswel and it really is a kick in the teeth when you try to get out and do more. I used to be terrible with travelling but im mostly over it now (although still dont like going abroad) and I dont drink alcohol whatsoever, its just not worth it!

Unfortunately being triggered by stress it can get into a viscous circle but you need to sort out the mental side before the physical symptoms get better.

Anybody taking the piss out of Tom for his above post needs their head kicking in, just leave it out if youve got a twattyy comment.

(11-07-2012, 10:56 PM)InkedMuttley Wrote:

(11-07-2012, 10:18 PM)Toms306 Wrote: Basically I drove down to chelmsford (over an hour away) to meet a lad off .net with some wheels. On the way, my guts started playing up (ibs ftl) and I got the services just in time for - there's no nice way to put this - 'mass evacuation'.

Dude I once shit myself in college when I was 18...did I stop going? No did I f*ck because life's too short to give a shit about embarrassment!

Honestly dude you either need to go to the doctors who WILL help but as was mentioned before steer clear of the anti-depressants they're a lady garden when I was on them (still supposed to be on them) I was like a f*cking zombie until they started kicking in and then I stopped taking them as I didn't like the fact that I didn't feel as if I was 'me' basically it felt as if I was somebody else but in my own body either way I stopped taking them felt like shit for ages and the doctors have finally decided that I might have been wrongly diagnosed with depression and I might actually be bipolar.

But honestly dude take a risk if you can't go anywhere without needing the loo then why don't you start taking out a couple of spare pairs of trousers and underpants etc at least then that will give you a little more confidence!

Good luck though mate and hope you get something sorted I'm pretty sure we're all behind you on this one.

(11-07-2012, 11:00 PM)SRowell Wrote: so if i buy you some of these you will come to FCS next year?



and cheers for coming over today mate. Was good to see you and cheers for the help. Im pretty happy with the car atm!

(11-07-2012, 11:02 PM)InkedMuttley Wrote: I see a flaw in the plan...If you have a few more pounds on you than Joe Bloggs when you sit on it. Well let's just say you won't be as happy as a pig in shit!

(12-07-2012, 10:37 AM)c.a.r. Wrote: Sort out your problems or seek help soon or you'll literally piss the best years of your life away.

(12-07-2012, 10:49 AM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote: 8 and a half stone? Aren't you like 6ft tall or something?

(12-07-2012, 10:37 AM)c.a.r. Wrote: ..........you'll literally piss the best years of your life away.

(12-07-2012, 11:27 AM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote: Wow, should maybe see the doctor about that tbh. I'm 5'10" and weigh 11 stone and I'm slim, only got to that recently because I've been cycling and working out.

(12-07-2012, 01:08 PM)procta Wrote: something will come your way tom just wait and see.

(12-07-2012, 02:19 PM)Midnightclub Wrote: Tom, if you're going to put a mental downer on absolutely everything then how do you expect to feel positive or get anywhere?!

(12-07-2012, 02:20 PM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote: You can't just wait and expect stuff to change/come to you, you have to go and do stuff for yourself.

I know it's related to the anxiety/ibs/problems and it's not exactly good. Being too slim can have adverse effects on your body just like being a fat lady garden can.

I don't like needles either, have to be sedated when I have teeth out otherwise I wouldn't let them take them out.

(12-07-2012, 02:37 PM)Toms306 Wrote: Well I dont expect to get anywhere.....thats literally what I just said above.

I don't really know how to be positive anyway......maybe I do need those antidepressants afterall.

(12-07-2012, 02:48 PM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote: It's never too late. I'll tell you something; about 3 years ago, I really wanted a missus, fed up of being alone, seeing friends with their gf's, etc. I didn't seem to have any luck at all, thought I was going to be single forever then out of nowhere my mate gave me a phone number and hey presto I found myself with a girlfriend. Popped my cherry, had some fun, spent a year with her then she jogged me on, but meh shit happens. It made me realise though that I needed to get out and stuff if I wanted anything like that, sitting at home on my xbox/pc which I had been doing wasn't exactly proving too well for me. Also gave me the confidence to talk to girls, not as scary as I thought they were And I'm not too bad at it

(12-07-2012, 03:15 PM)procta Wrote:

(12-07-2012, 02:48 PM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote: It's never too late. I'll tell you something; about 3 years ago, I really wanted a missus, fed up of being alone, seeing friends with their gf's, etc. I didn't seem to have any luck at all, thought I was going to be single forever then out of nowhere my mate gave me a phone number and hey presto I found myself with a girlfriend. Popped my cherry, had some fun, spent a year with her then she jogged me on, but meh shit happens. It made me realise though that I needed to get out and stuff if I wanted anything like that, sitting at home on my xbox/pc which I had been doing wasn't exactly proving too well for me. Also gave me the confidence to talk to girls, not as scary as I thought they were And I'm not too bad at it

id love to have a MRS Procta but its getting the time when you and my pals are off at the same to go out on a night out.

(12-07-2012, 03:17 PM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote:

(12-07-2012, 03:15 PM)procta Wrote:

(12-07-2012, 02:48 PM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote: It's never too late. I'll tell you something; about 3 years ago, I really wanted a missus, fed up of being alone, seeing friends with their gf's, etc. I didn't seem to have any luck at all, thought I was going to be single forever then out of nowhere my mate gave me a phone number and hey presto I found myself with a girlfriend. Popped my cherry, had some fun, spent a year with her then she jogged me on, but meh shit happens. It made me realise though that I needed to get out and stuff if I wanted anything like that, sitting at home on my xbox/pc which I had been doing wasn't exactly proving too well for me. Also gave me the confidence to talk to girls, not as scary as I thought they were And I'm not too bad at it

id love to have a MRS Procta but its getting the time when you and my pals are off at the same to go out on a night out.

I have the same problem mate, I work evenings and weekends so Friday and Saturday nights are spent working instead of getting sticky fingers.

(12-07-2012, 02:48 PM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote: Your body just has a few problems, same as a Pug

(12-07-2012, 02:44 PM)samass Wrote: have a look around, try and find a specialist and do it for yourself Tom.

good luck to you mate

(12-07-2012, 02:51 PM)Midnightclub Wrote:

(12-07-2012, 02:37 PM)Toms306 Wrote: Well I dont expect to get anywhere.....thats literally what I just said above.

I don't really know how to be positive anyway......maybe I do need those antidepressants afterall.

That's exactly what i mean though, if you always think the worst and nothing else then lifes going to suck, I know it's hard trying to be positive when there is what seems like very little you can be positive about.. I know you said earlier that 'talking doesn't help' but you'd be suprised! Have you ever even tried to see a therapist?

(12-07-2012, 03:18 PM)procta Wrote:

(12-07-2012, 03:17 PM)bigcheez2k3 Wrote:

(12-07-2012, 03:15 PM)procta Wrote: id love to have a MRS Procta but its getting the time when you and my pals are off at the same to go out on a night out.

I have the same problem mate, I work evenings and weekends so Friday and Saturday nights are spent working instead of getting sticky fingers.

its a pain in the arse isnt it!!