16-04-2016, 04:42 PM
The real issue with "it was just a joke" on a forum is that no matter how funny you think you are, your joke will be taken in the most offensive way possible.
Also, not everybody knows the "internet banter code" - there's lots of people I know I can rib on the internet and they'll take it well - other people I know just avoid it as it will invariably end in them taking a massive amount of offence and getting upset.
People need to remember that the look on your face when you hit that "Post Reply" button is not conveyed via the interwebs... People say "it was only a joke..." etc etc, but people on the receiving are likely to get upset and offended because they read it in a very different way to how it sounds in your head. I'm bad for it too as I know I've said things in the past and regretted it and people have gotten upset...
It always feels to me like on the forum these days you cannot give constructive criticism - I tried doing it once in a certain HDi build thread and got told to "Go f*ck [my]self". If you want to have advice, accept that you'll sometimes not hear what you want to hear. If people don't like it, either enter into an adult conversation about why, or quietly ignore or respectfully say that you're going to do it your way, but thanks for the advice. The way NOT to handle that situation is by throwing toys out of your perambulator and stomping your feet with lots of swear words and childish insults.
Also - WRT the posts about "are the admins going to sort out xxx trips/days"... That's not what we're here for, we're purely here to administrate and moderate the forum. As said previously, we should NOT have to moderate the forum at all, if we are moderating, then shit has gotten to a point it should never have. If you want to organise a trackday, go and do it, don't sit around moaning that the admins don't do anything...
306oc is a community and it has no leaders - merely people empowered to clean up if there's a mess that should never have happened in the first place.
Also, not everybody knows the "internet banter code" - there's lots of people I know I can rib on the internet and they'll take it well - other people I know just avoid it as it will invariably end in them taking a massive amount of offence and getting upset.
People need to remember that the look on your face when you hit that "Post Reply" button is not conveyed via the interwebs... People say "it was only a joke..." etc etc, but people on the receiving are likely to get upset and offended because they read it in a very different way to how it sounds in your head. I'm bad for it too as I know I've said things in the past and regretted it and people have gotten upset...
It always feels to me like on the forum these days you cannot give constructive criticism - I tried doing it once in a certain HDi build thread and got told to "Go f*ck [my]self". If you want to have advice, accept that you'll sometimes not hear what you want to hear. If people don't like it, either enter into an adult conversation about why, or quietly ignore or respectfully say that you're going to do it your way, but thanks for the advice. The way NOT to handle that situation is by throwing toys out of your perambulator and stomping your feet with lots of swear words and childish insults.
Also - WRT the posts about "are the admins going to sort out xxx trips/days"... That's not what we're here for, we're purely here to administrate and moderate the forum. As said previously, we should NOT have to moderate the forum at all, if we are moderating, then shit has gotten to a point it should never have. If you want to organise a trackday, go and do it, don't sit around moaning that the admins don't do anything...
306oc is a community and it has no leaders - merely people empowered to clean up if there's a mess that should never have happened in the first place.
