Job Hunt and Health Issues

[Toms306]

tom, what makes you think you failed the interview? just because your mind goes a blank doesn't mean anything! After all they will know that your nervous anyway!
Also as for the delivery side of things, just go in and ask for a menu and then just ask are you taking on extra drivers? Simple as that! What is the worst they are going to say? Sorry we are not at the current time, or This shop isn't but our other shop is,
I know its hard pal, I have had to make a hard choice, as you know, and I have been with the place for 12 years! So I am going to be very nervous about starting a new job and meeting new people etc. But then again, I meet new people when I am at work and I have to serve them if they need anything.
Best thing you can do to boost your self, is go into a charity shop and ask if they need help, Gives you some experience, with people. You might have to do it for free, but its experience.

It was more than just blanking tbh. I made quite a few fails. I couldn't make eye contact with the interviewer (I always struggle with eye contact though). I came over lightheaded a couple of times and had to steady myself grabbing the desk (god knows what she thought I was doing!). I didn't have any questions to ask at the end, despite her asking 3 times. I didn't answer any of the questions properly that I remember. I kept stuttering and getting words stuck. It was like GSCE English orals again!! As I say...it did not go well. If I was the interviewer I wouldn't give me a job.

Sad thing is I genuinely thought I was able to do it before getting there.

Can you be assured that CBT is useless after one session?

Now that you are able to do longer distances it seems like it would be worthwhile trying it again with an open mind.

Technically 3 sessions, but yeah it doesn't work for everyone... I honestly thought there was more to it than just doing stuff you struggle with...there isn't. I'm capable of doing that myself anyway - I'd already been doing it before going to all the hassle of seeing someone to tell me to do what I was already trying to do...

There is also a vicious circle here - I do think some sort of therapy (ERP rather than CBT maybe) would help with my medical phobias, which affect a lot more than you'd think. Problem is I'm unlikely to be able to do that until I can last an hour in a stressful situation without cacking myself... Of course I could have the blood tests done and find a solution to my bowel issues...but that won't be possible until I can get over the medical fears...the whole point behind trying the ERP in the first place...