(03-12-2012, 12:51 PM)procta Wrote: tom dont even think about topping your self or doing something stupid!
can you not stay with your dad for a few months, so your away from everything at home. then get your self a small part time job in a supermarket. ( which will help bring you out of your shell when talking to people and talking on the phone) my mate went thru every f*cking page thru the yellow pages asking if they were taking on etc.
Anxiety attacks, if you feel one coming on, just think of something you love, or a funny situation that you remember.
ie think about that mod on you want to do with the 306. or when a mate at school did something mad. ( which will take your mind off the situation) . works for me when i get worked up about work.
do that just once and thats it your mastered preventing an anxiety attack.
Heh, staying with my Dad would be worse! But no I couldn't even if I wanted to, his and his wife and step son have moved into a tiny flat. I barely see him, but I don't like him anyway tbf.
I've heard of people saying similar things about panic/anxiety attacks before, but I genuinely don't know how you can think about anything else in that situation, its like it takes over and thats it.
(03-12-2012, 01:21 PM)Andy Wrote: Where's JJ when you need him. We make a good team in these situations. Let's start off with what was happening to me and how I was dealing with it (It worked for me)
As I'm sure I've mentioned to you in the chatbox before... After I left school I was falling into the wrong crowd, it wasn't too bad at first with the odd Spliff here and there and getting drunk, we then started to do things such as stealing milk from doors at like 4am (this was good fun tbh, but still harsh) it then moved onto breaking into abandoned houses and hotels and stealing anything that was worth something, I then moved onto drugs such as cocaine and drinking everyday. After a while we were breaking into cars and robbing people like it was a normal daily thing for us to do.
People were after me, I was getting my head smashed in left right and centre. Then moved onto stealing a few cars and at this point I was getting very low, stealing money from work and taking as many drugs as I could lay my hands on. (Never touched heroin or crack mind) but anyway. I got so low I was contemplating killing myself, I rode 8 miles to a quiet place and had it pretty much all set up to take me away from this shitty place. I sat there still for Atleast 7 hours after a huge think about my life and what I was doing to myself. I thought what the f*ck is the point in this... My parents and family didn't like who I was but I know they still loved me for who I was because I'm their son... There's always someone that cares about you mate. NEVER EVER FORGET THAT MATE.
Right... What I did to get out of what I was like..........
After I got past the initial point if wanting to drown myself, I sat down and thought 'well, I wanna stay here for my family, I can't do that to them, I wanna change etc'
I tried to give myself something to focus on. Drawing World War II aircraft was something I loved to do. I know it sounds a little stupid but it was something I could focus on. I also gave myself a 'reward' every so often to keep myself motivated. Basically... How ever much advice you'll be getting you can only help yourself. That's why I have told you (very deeply) what happened to me and how I dealt with it.
I too have IBS and a very very mild form of OCD. The IBS affects me daily, its a very common thing that can be sorted by taking something as simple as an imodium tablet. The OCD well, I'm not really sure but all I want to say mate is read through all these replys... Take notes of the things you sit back and think 'hmm yeah I agree' on a bit of paper or on your computer and build on it yourself because ultimately.... You need to help yourself <3 love dude.
Thanks for that Andy, some decent advice in there.
As for immodium though - I've got the problem of taking pills and side effects there again.
(03-12-2012, 01:28 PM)r3k1355 Wrote: Have you been to a Doctor or Psychologist?
They will either be able to give you advice and training to help with your OCD/Anxiety or at least some meds for one of them.
If you can gain some more control over one or two of the issues then things will become simpler and you'll have more freedom in life to get a job sorted.
I think moving out so you can run your life by your crazys is not a good idea, they will rule you, you won't rule them.
Nah thats not how it works, I have less problems with OCD when the 'rents are on holiday - I can get everything clean in the first day, and then because its not on my mind about avioding them, I have less problems like that. The problem is when they're here watching me and touching things! And again because they're not here I have less anxiety issues too, plus I can (almost) relax as I'll get my choice of TV/music and go out when I like rather than being stuck in my room on OC all evening. I'm almost certain moving out would help those issues - the IBS not so much but reducing the anxiety/stress should help it.
(03-12-2012, 10:40 AM)Poodle Wrote: I thought you were making progress with the travelling thing?
I think I've covered the rest of your post in the other replies but not this bit.
Heres another catch 22 - IF I can drive out further and further every week or so - I'd be able to go further. I now think nothing of driving 45minutes over to Rowells house - I couldn't even do that a year ago. And going up to Norfolk was a bit of a one-off or experiment if you like. Thankfully it went well, but as said IBS can happen at any time, it could've gone horribly wrong. However - I can't afford the fuel to drive out further right now, so thats actually gone a step backwards!!