21-01-2015, 11:37 AM
If I'm being brutally honest Tom and I don't want to offend you, I think the reason you're stuck in this rut is that you've got it easy - and I know you won't agree with that.
You're 22, live at home, have a decent daily and a weekend toy, don't work, and 'get by'. I use the phrase get by as you clearly aren't happy in the position you're in, and do want to make a change - however in the current position because you can get by day to day it's a case of you aren't forced into making a change.
If it were a case of you had nowhere to live, you would be down the council offices begging for a 1 bed flat anywhere you could get one, this would then literally force you to take any job you could take, and there onward you'd get worse before getting better, but the change would have no other way but to happen.
I've known you for years now and as you know I've tried to help in every way possible both openly on here and privately, I've seen you at rock bottom, make progress (Norwich for example - you did great.) and then back to the start again. I don't know how you do it - I take it from what you say that you currently live off of savings/bits of cash you make here and there, what are you going to do when the savings dry up? (I guess that's why you're asking now?)
If there was an easy way of making money, preferably from home - We would all be doing it!
You certainly aren't the only one with the issues you have, have you spoken to other people with similar issues? How do they get by? They must either work, or get benefits?
You need to battle these demons and face up to them, from what you've said it comes across like it's easier to give up than fight, you mention that you don't really like doing anything.. not many people do! You know what many of us do for a living, do you think we like doing it? I'd much rather do something I enjoy, but it's difficult to find that.
Again please don't take offence as I'm only trying to help as a friend!
You're 22, live at home, have a decent daily and a weekend toy, don't work, and 'get by'. I use the phrase get by as you clearly aren't happy in the position you're in, and do want to make a change - however in the current position because you can get by day to day it's a case of you aren't forced into making a change.
If it were a case of you had nowhere to live, you would be down the council offices begging for a 1 bed flat anywhere you could get one, this would then literally force you to take any job you could take, and there onward you'd get worse before getting better, but the change would have no other way but to happen.
I've known you for years now and as you know I've tried to help in every way possible both openly on here and privately, I've seen you at rock bottom, make progress (Norwich for example - you did great.) and then back to the start again. I don't know how you do it - I take it from what you say that you currently live off of savings/bits of cash you make here and there, what are you going to do when the savings dry up? (I guess that's why you're asking now?)
If there was an easy way of making money, preferably from home - We would all be doing it!
You certainly aren't the only one with the issues you have, have you spoken to other people with similar issues? How do they get by? They must either work, or get benefits?
You need to battle these demons and face up to them, from what you've said it comes across like it's easier to give up than fight, you mention that you don't really like doing anything.. not many people do! You know what many of us do for a living, do you think we like doing it? I'd much rather do something I enjoy, but it's difficult to find that.
Again please don't take offence as I'm only trying to help as a friend!