Unconventional Income

[Toms306]

Time does fly mate lol, it's fair to say that I don't entirely empathize with you although, I was a very shy boy with a few issues of my own, I am eldest of 8, the go to person for their problems, I have looked after children with mental and physical disabilities, taught music to kids and adults and I know people, as unique as u think your problems are, they are more common than you think but deserve no respect, they need throwing away, as much as your mum and dad let you down you have to create your own chapter, gotta go now, youngest is crying for me to get off my phone lol

Eldest of 8, blimey!   Individually my problems are fairly common, I'm yet to find someone in exactly the same situation though, despite years of forum trawling lol.  But as said, I know I can work on that given the opportunity.

You are right, I totally agree I need to do something about it, I'm not just blaming them, I should've been naughtier lol, it turns out parents don't always know best lol.  

They were only saying on the radio yesterday that 1 in 10 under 25s have anxiety issues and find it uncomfortable to leave the house.

Tom I reckon window cleaning could do you well. I know our guy makes a mint doing it and he has a big brush on a stick for doing the upstairs stuff so he doesnt even have to go up ladders etc!

I find it uncomfortable being in the house though!

It's just more diagnosed now I think, anxiety and depression seem the GPs new favourite thing lol.  It's certainly not a new thing, I was surprised how many older people have anxiety problems when I started looking into it.  It's more that 50 years ago, 'anxiety' would've been called 'worrying about shit' and 'depression' would've been called 'being a miserable bastard'.
 

Yes, because in mollycoddling our children  we are creating a society of people that don't have enough real problems to worry about, therefore create imaginary problems of their own. I won't get started on that, interested to see you acknowledge it without prompting though.

However, although i may not be the most sympathetic, i can empathise. That said, Matt is dead right. Anyone who really knows me will be able to tell you just how bad (or perhaps good) i am at making good excuses for not doing something i don't want to do. Your responses to the suggestions in this thread are 90% excuses, much as i despise the expression, you can't bullshit a bullshitter mate. I'm sure some of them are genuinely important considerations, but only you can be honest enough with yourself to say which, although i have my suspicions lol. I guess what i'm saying is don't automatically dismiss stuff out of hand because the idea makes you uncomfortable, your best chance is to give yourself as many options as possible.

That's interesting tbh, I don't completely agree with you though.  You are right in that anything new my instant response is to run but a lot of the time I have genuinely already tried whatever it is or something similar so know why it didn't work out.  I don't think I bother with excuses, if I don't want to do something I just say I don't want to do it lol.   I mean, can you see me as a security guard!?   Not really got the build for it!  Unless I can learn Dynamo's trick where he manages to take away peoples strength lol.

 Also making up 1st world problems lol, anxiety yeah, if you don't let kids hurt themselves or explain the consequences of actions, they'll never try anything!  I'll make you laugh with this one, after sex ed in year 6 of primary school my Dads one sentence of advice was 'always wear a condom'.  I was in year 11 of high school (16) before I understood that wasn't the case, was wondering how people ever got pregnant if they always wore them!   The point is, I was always told what to do or not to do, with no explanation as to why, and stupidly I did everything I was told!

Never thought to ask why cant I go to the park when my mates can?  Why can't I ride my go-kart out of the back garden (wtf is the point having one if you cant go anywhere!)?  Why cant I go to the woods opposite the house?  Why cant I go to the beach with the tide coming in?  Why can't I walk on the sea wall?  In the end I was just petrified of everything!!  Was still getting the same shit when I was 17 and got a car, don't go too far, don't go out in bad weather, don't go on the single track roads....  I need to be more of a rebel like my little sister.

But that's the anxiety of things and that's more of an annoying worry really, I can cope with anxiety and panic attacks through breathing and a few other tips I picked up from the internet (don't bother with therapists, learnt 10 times as much online!).  OCD is in a different league though and the 2 are separate, although similar.  OCD is a constant doubt about things, different things for different people, but it isn't just a minor worry like anxiety, its a constant battle against things you cant be sure of, checking things all the time, repeating things even though you've just done them 10+ times, going over things from the past (rumination), and seeking reassurance about everything, doubting and regretting every decision you make.  I don't see that that can come from mollycoddling, it's surely a 'glitch' in the brain.

You ought to be a bungalow window cleaner with a campervan that only works in shotley gate.

/lifesolved

Jordan you should be a life coach!  But if I had a campervan I certainly wouldn't stay in this village lol, I'd get as far away as possible!

Tom what about night security work?

Some of the times I've done night shift I've not seen a single human being for 12 hours straight. Most companies will pay for you to do your SIA licence.

I have a sia card and do alot of door,it's a good little earner but recently been given the opportunity to do nite's looking a building I used to do it in the day and just sat there for 12 hours,very easy money 

Security industry is growning like crazy atm,which why I'm thinking of jacking in my current job and do somthing in internal security.

Althought the card and training will set you back £420 ish and liscence has to be renewed ever 3 years. 


There's also a app for Android call 500 plus which is a live stocks buyer and seller you can use the demo and then if you think you good enough give it a go for real.

You've both met me, do you honestly think I'd be any good at security?

'Erm, excuse me, could, umm, could you leave please, you're not meant to be here'...