19-01-2013, 12:19 PM
This probably sounds a bit sexist but I think it must be easier for girls to talk to thier Mums, afterall you will have more in common and will have had to talk about other, umm, awkward lady things previously. 
Thats a very good idea about eplaining it is to help her understand rather than worry though.
As you've probably guessed by now, clarity and confidence are two skills I definitly lack. Especially when talking to someone, regardless of whether or not I know them, it seems to be worse if I do know them tbh. And especially when its talking about myself as I absolutely hate doing it, I know that probably seems odd as I'm nearly solidly talking about myself on here at the moment, but its because I hate doing it in real life and will avoid it if I can.
I don't disagree though, you're definitely right that I need to keep trying to explain stuff to them. I'm always gonna feel like I'm 'being a burden' though, as I always do.
I'm sure hypnotherapy does help some people, but I'm also sure it works as kind of a placebo effect because people think it will help, and Im afraid for me, it wouldn't work as I have the wrong mindset. I've read about several people in similar situations trying all these things that are supposed to help (whether thats talking or drugs or whatever) but it doesn't change anything when they (or I) have got stuck in the mindset that it won't make a difference. I dont know how to change that mindset.
If my Nan does pull through she wont be going 'home', my Dad and his wife are desperatley trying to get her a social services warden controlled flat - and I've seen how tiny these places are! It wouldn't work anyway though for many other reasons. One being the loo, she is extremely old/frail now which makes her slow at everything, it takes her about an hour and a half to get ready in the bathroom in the morning and I couldn't cope with that for a start. I wont go into all the reasons but the list is endless as to why I couldn't move in with her. Probably one of the main things is I know at some point I'd end up finding her dead one day and I couldn't put up with the thought of that, I'd just worry about that until it happened.
And i also agree about Kent's Nan, he can keep putting off (as I would, and do, with everything) but eventually it'll be too late and he'll regret not going then....
Thats a very good idea about eplaining it is to help her understand rather than worry though.As you've probably guessed by now, clarity and confidence are two skills I definitly lack. Especially when talking to someone, regardless of whether or not I know them, it seems to be worse if I do know them tbh. And especially when its talking about myself as I absolutely hate doing it, I know that probably seems odd as I'm nearly solidly talking about myself on here at the moment, but its because I hate doing it in real life and will avoid it if I can.
I don't disagree though, you're definitely right that I need to keep trying to explain stuff to them. I'm always gonna feel like I'm 'being a burden' though, as I always do.
I'm sure hypnotherapy does help some people, but I'm also sure it works as kind of a placebo effect because people think it will help, and Im afraid for me, it wouldn't work as I have the wrong mindset. I've read about several people in similar situations trying all these things that are supposed to help (whether thats talking or drugs or whatever) but it doesn't change anything when they (or I) have got stuck in the mindset that it won't make a difference. I dont know how to change that mindset.
If my Nan does pull through she wont be going 'home', my Dad and his wife are desperatley trying to get her a social services warden controlled flat - and I've seen how tiny these places are! It wouldn't work anyway though for many other reasons. One being the loo, she is extremely old/frail now which makes her slow at everything, it takes her about an hour and a half to get ready in the bathroom in the morning and I couldn't cope with that for a start. I wont go into all the reasons but the list is endless as to why I couldn't move in with her. Probably one of the main things is I know at some point I'd end up finding her dead one day and I couldn't put up with the thought of that, I'd just worry about that until it happened.
And i also agree about Kent's Nan, he can keep putting off (as I would, and do, with everything) but eventually it'll be too late and he'll regret not going then....