(17-01-2013, 02:47 PM)kentiiboii Wrote: First of all Tom I know you wasn't technically shouting but you was getting your point across which is more of what I ment.
I've read the whole thread so I've been watching everything. Just trying to find possible ways to help you mate. But your never going to do this on your own. You need someone there to help you.
You remind me of my mrs a lot. You always find the negatives in everything you do and never consider the positives. Before you've done something you've already decided the negative is going to happen therefore you won't do it.
Always remember "you never know till you've asked".
Ok you've told your mum to a small degree but she might only think it's a little matter that you've got under controll. You need to tell her how serious it really is. Tell her your day to day routine and what happens if it gets interrupted like your stepdad coming home. The little things that your thinking about your stepdad being there to us lot seem like nothing but to you there massive things. You need to make sure you tell your mum just how bad it is.
As I said you really don't know till you've asked. I understand she's not supportive now. But you don't know why your just acting as if she doesn't care.
Sorry to hear about your gran, mines been in a care home since i was 13 with demensha(how ever it's spelt). I havnt seen her since she went in Becuase I wanna remember the good times with her, the last memory I have of her is me coming downstairs in me boxers and her calling me a fat b*sterd which at 13 isn't really good to hear. But I've been told she hasn't got long left I really wanna see her but really don't wanna she her the way she is.
But I think moving in with your gran really would benifit you both. I know you don't clean every 5 minutes I was exaggerating but your help her out more than what she would be doing for you. Specially if she's really struggling.
If she's lived in her house where she is now for a long time then maybe shed really appreciate the help to keep it.
I see the negatives because experience has taught me that 9.9 times out of 10, it's the negative thing that happens!
As for my Mum, I do want to tell her, but I dont know how. But even when I do tell her, she won't do anything about it, what can she do about it?
As I said above moving in with my Nan isn't an option tbh. And as for her house, she hates it! Have you ever seen the 'hoarder' programmes on tv? Well, theres basically so much shite in her house that its taking me ages to sort through it, and of course my Dad is no help there whatsoever, as usual. She wanted to move out as soon as my grandad died but couldn't becuase she simply has too much stuff and wont part with anything as 'it might come in handy'. The house is falling apart, theres a huge crack that runs up and over the middle of the house because one corner is subsiding badly, theres mould and damp everywhere, the electrics are completely shite and infact a massive fire hazard and because its big and old she has to have 2kw heaters burning electric at full blast in most rooms which just eats electric and gives her £400 leccy bills. It really is a horrible house and will only be fit for crushing and rebuilding when she can finally leave it.