Am I being out of order?

[mark_airey]

Obviously talk to her about it before loosing it with her, but Poodle has pretty much got exactly the same opinion as me about it so there is no point in writing the same thing again

£51 bid...

Is it sensatori in Mexico by any chance?

[cully]

yes out of order!
yes a discussion is needed not a war!
maybe suggest splitting the £500 she has between your holiday and the family holiday!?

[mark_airey]

yes out of order!
yes a discussion is needed not a war!
maybe suggest splitting the £500 she has between your holiday and the family holiday!?

And then if she says no go with my first suggestion?

[declantg]

If I was you I would be fuming, you took on all the extra work for her to do that, I honestly think you should take me, I will bring the elephant...

[mark_airey]

If I was you I would be fuming, you took on all the extra work for her to do that, I honestly think you should take me, I will bring the elephant...

See now by merely just mentioning "the elephant" you have totally ruined your chances of going

[declantg]

The elephant is a party starter!

[mark_airey]

The elephant is a party starter!

No you have that the wrong way round, I think it would be more likely to end a party by scaring everyone away than it is to start one

[kentiiboii]

In fairness she should of spoke to you about the holiday with her parents and using the money that was planned to give you to her to you. If shed of asked it wouldn't be as bad of at least offered to split.

My misses is the same. She expects me to pay for everything. Says I'm doing cos she only works 9 hours a week yet she has 2.5k sat in the bank. And here my bank always say a big fat zero

[Megamonkey]

Bah that is out of order ... she should of said to her parents she was already committed to paying you back and that to go on the family holiday she wouldn't be able to pay for it.

However you just have to talk to her, and if she says she feels guilty about not paying her parents then it might bea good idea for you to suggest talking to her dad about it (as long as he doesn't hate your guts), as I'm sure he'd be more understanding of the situation and then would say you gf wouldn't have to pay towards the family holiday.

[Niall]

Declan I'm Definately not taking you if your going to bring that bloody elephant! f*ck waking up with that thing next to me! Haha

[declantg]

It would be a dream come true aha! Can't wait to wear it in the summer

[mark_airey]

It would be a dream come true aha! Can't wait to wear it in the summer

You have just officially un-invited yourself from any summer camping meets right there

[declantg]

Who says I won't be wearing it to any meet?

[MrsMidnight]

It would be a dream come true aha! Can't wait to wear it in the summer

I feel sorry for your neighbors!

[kentiiboii]

It would be a dream come true aha! Can't wait to wear it in the summer

You have just officially un-invited yourself from any summer camping meets right there

Thank fudge for that. Don't wanna put me off any meets

[Kimmie]

Well throwing my 2 cents in, I've paid a lot of Canada this month, and also have a family holiday later in the year to pay for next month, so I'm a little tight on money. However, if I knew I couldn't pay it, I would have said to my parents that I'm definitely up for it, however due to the first holiday I can't stump up the money for quite a while. Then ask if there's any way they could pay my half and I'd pay it back later on/as and when I had it.

She's made the commitment to you, and regardless of it being a family holiday, she should have looked at ways of affording and paying off the two. Definitely have a calm discussion about it and explain how you feel, as if you go in guns blazing you'll be in the wrong!

[C.A.R.]

Personally you are insane for wanting to buy a Citroen brand new. In-sane. But that's besides the point...

With my ex I made this error, paying for her to have everything. As a bloke you tend to be the bread-winner (sorry girls) in a relationship as there are more higher-paid opportunities open to us at a younger age.

My mrs expects us to move out in the summer but at present she only has a part-time job and her hours are being cut...she's now pregnant too. She says that she will never go on benefits because she doesn't agree with it, but the truth is there is no way we are moving out on my wage alone, as I would end up paying for everything on top.

[Kimmie]

Woah woah woah

Pregnant?!?!

Congrats mate (although you don't sound too pleased lol)!

[C.A.R.]

Yea but don't say nothing cos I just remembered I'm supposed to keep quiet for another week. LOL.

Focus was bought for a reason. The only thing I won on was getting a 3dr, everyone thinks I'm a mong though but I couldn't bring myself to buy a minibus.

[MrsMoonstone]

Yeah congrats! And also, just to balance things out a little: I'm the "bread winner" in our relationship and I'm more than happy for Paul to move in with me even though he probably won't have a job or any other income when it happens. Don't know if that's me being naive but we know we can live on my salary (as it is what we had before with Paul's money + my student loan/jobs). To me it depends what stage of a relationship you're in, tbh, I've committed myself to spend the rest of my life with Paul so what's mine is his, and what's his is mine, right?!

[mark_airey]

tbh, I've committed myself to spend the rest of my life with Paul so what's mine is his, and what's his is mine, right?!

I was under this impression but when you get married it turns into "whats his is mine and whats mine is mine" so it seems

[Connor]

tbh, I've committed myself to spend the rest of my life with Paul so what's mine is his, and what's his is mine, right?!

I was under this impression but when you get married it turns into "whats his is mine and whats mine is mine" so it seems

And what have I missed? Wtf is all this elephant talk...

[mark_airey]

And what have I missed? Wtf is all this elephant talk...

You will regret asking this and I would not advise you open this thread! but.........

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[MrsMoonstone]

I was under this impression but when you get married it turns into "whats his is mine and whats mine is mine" so it seems

Works for me!

[declantg]

[Connor]

And what have I missed? Wtf is all this elephant talk...

You will regret asking this and I would not advise you open this thread! but.........

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Oh thankgod! Opened it... but the image was cut off by the bottom of the page! Only saw the "top" so nothing I need to scrub out my eyes with bleach

[THE_Liam]

Congrats car you miserable git

As for the main thing, there's no f*cking way I'd stand for that. I'm going away in June, and my lass is paying for half of it. I'd pay for her if she didn't have the money, but if some money turned up i'd expect her to help me pay for it!

[mark_airey]

Oh thankgod! Opened it... but the image was cut off by the bottom of the page! Only saw the "top" so nothing I need to scrub out my eyes with bleach

Shame the rest of us are still using the bleach at least I warned you!

[Connor]

Tbf Id have been fine if you hadnt

[devils_fuel]

Niall she should have spoke to you and said about her family holiday and the fact she has to pay but then again she should have had the same convo with her dad....then maybe you and the dad may have chatted about it BUT then again (no offense intended) she she not be a greedy lady and go on both knowing she cannot pay for both....so she knows she is taking someone for a ride!

be really calm (this will freak her out lol) and have a chat, i would ask her questions like the following but more tactfully....

Wheres the fairness that i have work all the hours god sends to pay for OUR complete holiday on my own, i can only afford 1 holiday this year because of it so do you think its fair you and get 2 holidays? - how would you feel if roles were reversed?
what happens if unfortunate things happen and i cannot afford to pay for the whole holiday? i was 100% budgeting on your money to pay towards the holiday?


Me and my partner go halves on the total cost of our hols, so we both pay half for charlie and it stops any arguments about money lol....its worked for everything between us so...apart from me paying to repair the car after shes hit it pmsl